Rework the event system of sc-network (#1370)

This commit introduces a new concept called `NotificationService` which
allows Polkadot protocols to communicate with the underlying
notification protocol implementation directly, without routing events
through `NetworkWorker`. This implies that each protocol has its own
service which it uses to communicate with remote peers and that each
`NotificationService` is unique with respect to the underlying
notification protocol, meaning `NotificationService` for the transaction
protocol can only be used to send and receive transaction-related
notifications.

The `NotificationService` concept introduces two additional benefits:
  * allow protocols to start using custom handshakes
  * allow protocols to accept/reject inbound peers

Previously the validation of inbound connections was solely the
responsibility of `ProtocolController`. This caused issues with light
peers and `SyncingEngine` as `ProtocolController` would accept more
peers than `SyncingEngine` could accept which caused peers to have
differing views of their own states. `SyncingEngine` would reject excess
peers but these rejections were not properly communicated to those peers
causing them to assume that they were accepted.

With `NotificationService`, the local handshake is not sent to remote
peer if peer is rejected which allows it to detect that it was rejected.

This commit also deprecates the use of `NetworkEventStream` for all
notification-related events and going forward only DHT events are
provided through `NetworkEventStream`. If protocols wish to follow each
other's events, they must introduce additional abtractions, as is done
for GRANDPA and transactions protocols by following the syncing protocol
through `SyncEventStream`.

Fixes https://github.com/paritytech/polkadot-sdk/issues/512
Fixes https://github.com/paritytech/polkadot-sdk/issues/514
Fixes https://github.com/paritytech/polkadot-sdk/issues/515
Fixes https://github.com/paritytech/polkadot-sdk/issues/554
Fixes https://github.com/paritytech/polkadot-sdk/issues/556

---
These changes are transferred from
https://github.com/paritytech/substrate/pull/14197 but there are no
functional changes compared to that PR

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Co-authored-by: Dmitry Markin <dmitry@markin.tech>
Co-authored-by: Alexandru Vasile <60601340+lexnv@users.noreply.github.com>

substrate/client/network/sync/src/service/mock.rs

@@ -27,6 +27,7 @@ use sc_network::{
 	NetworkNotification, NetworkPeers, NetworkRequest, NetworkSyncForkRequest,
 	NotificationSenderError, NotificationSenderT, ReputationChange,
 };
+use sc_network_common::role::ObservedRole;
 use sp_runtime::traits::{Block as BlockT, NumberFor};
 
 use std::collections::HashSet;
@@ -105,6 +106,7 @@ mockall::mock! {
 			peers: Vec<PeerId>
 		) -> Result<(), String>;
 		fn sync_num_connected(&self) -> usize;
+		fn peer_role(&self, peer_id: PeerId, handshake: Vec<u8>) -> Option<ObservedRole>;
 	}
 
 	#[async_trait::async_trait]